While my boyfriend and I have only been together for less than a year (having been friends for a few), I see great potential in our relationship and we have begun fantasizing about the future, and what we want to do/have. This includes a house/apartment (buy a tiny place in the city or get a huge lake house in the Adirondacks? hmmm? :) ), phatty retirement fund, lots of camping gear, dream vacations, etc. If we do decide to be together forever, I assume that we will be pooling our funds to make these things happen. As such, even though our funds are very far from being comingled, I still think of his money as my money and vice versa when it comes to our future spending potential.

That said, I'm unhappy to learn that he lost $200 playing flip cup while I was in Vegas. Ok, so I lost some money, too ($75), and did not discuss with him my $5o0 gambling budget, so I realize that I'm being hypocritical. It's just that when I make the effort to be frugal on other fronts (clipping coupons, taking the subway instead of a cab, making dinner instead of ordering out) and he goes ahead and spends excessive amounts of money in these categories, I feel like our combined net worth is going down because of his spending habits despite my best efforts to preserve it (gambling aside!). OK, I guess flip cup is also gambling. And he's quite the chugger, so I can see why he thought he would win, haha.

Many of you PF bloggers out there are married or are in significant relationships- how do you deal with or compromise with your partner's spending habits, when they are not the same as your own?